Foreword
The past year has been extremely
challenging in so many dierent ways.
Whether single or in a relationship, long
periods of lockdown have had a huge
impact on many people’s wellbeing and
Relate counsellors have worked tirelessly
supporting individuals, couples and
families through this extraordinary time.
As restrictions li and the world begins
to open up again, many of us are excited
to reconnect with family, partners and
friends. But some people are coming out
of the pandemic feeling like their self-
esteem has deteriorated. And with almost
two thirds of our survey respondents
agreeing that self-esteem and romantic
success are linked, we wanted to explore
further how single people and couples
are feeling about their relationships and
themselves at this moment in time.
We’re proud to be launching this research
during Relationships Week 2021.
Sometimes we’re so focused on other
people that we forget to pay attention to
arguably the most important relationship
of all: the one with ourselves. That’s why
this year our theme for the Week is ‘love
yourself’ – because building your own
self-esteem, acknowledging what you
need and sometimes just ‘being kinder’
to yourself can have a fundamental and
positive impact on your relationships and
wellbeing.
If you’re aected by any issues raised in
this report, please see the final page for
a list of services and resources. We’re
grateful to eharmony for making this
research possible during what is likely to
be a pivotal societal moment.
Aidan Jones
Relate CEO, July 2021
Methodology
We polled over three thousand
people across Britain. This included
a nationally representative sample
of 2,002 UK adults (18+) and an
additional boosted sample of
1,008 people identifying as single.
The polling was undertaken by
Censuswide and fieldwork was
carried out between 28 May – 4
June 2021.
To add further insight from the work
which Relate does with both single
people and those in relationships,
we undertook qualitative research
(online focus group) with Relate
counsellors to help inform the
polling and supplement the
quantitative data.
We also reviewed web data from
Relate’s site relate.org.uk and data
from Relate’s services from between
February 2020 and May 2021.
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