The COVID-19 pandemic has
changed the very fabric of our society and
the way we interact with family, friends
and potential love interests. The dating
scene has seen a monumental shi – in
particular – with video and virtual dating
mitigating feelings of disconnect.
And though our methods of
communication may have changed, the
complexities of dating remain. Our report,
examining the way in which men date, has
shone a spotlight on some endemic issues
they face, notably feeling insecure when it
comes to finding love.
It would be implausible to say with
absolute certainty where these
insecurities are rooted, due to the
dynamism of every individual, but our
research gives us valuable insight.
Foreword
Romain Bertrand
UK Managing Director, eharmony
Interestingly, the research we’ve
uncovered with Relate suggests men
and women share many of the same
commonalties when it comes to their
romantic insecurities. Men confess they
struggle with a fear of rejection and
worries about their appearance, which
echoes what our female users have been
telling us for years.
But where the genders potentially diverge
is around their attitudes to modern
dating etiquette. For instance, according
to our report, many men have felt the
impact of the #MeToo movement, with
the onus inevitably on them to anticipate
appropriate romantic conduct, including
more subtle behavioural cues such as who
should initially pay the bill. Whereas, for
women, this is hopefully a relatively more
empowering era.
There are indications that discussing
their mental health is becoming less
stigmatised for men, with around a fih
saying they could talk openly to their
partner about such issues.
This openness in communication is
core to both those in relationships, and
those searching for love. Real love isn’t
neat or tidy, there are problems and
challenges to face. Which is why highly
compatible couples fare better, because
they usually share the right conflict
resolution skills.
Above all, as experts in dating, we
know that clear communication helps
intimacy flourish, and eharmony’s
unique Compatibility Matching System is
designed with this in mind. Connecting
singles who will feel confident enough
to open up to one another about their
insecurities is fertile territory for a
secure and loving partnership.
We’d like to thank Relate for their
invaluable access to working practice
counsellors who made this research
all the more authentic.
4Men’s Heads and Hearts: A male perspective on dating and relationships in the UK today